Why is it

that when we think about putting ourselves and our needs first along with it comes guilt? The guilt of saying no to someone and the guilt of letting someone down.
At the moment, I'm in a situation where I have committed myself for caring for my nephews while my sister is as School, it's getting harder and harder, my youngest nephew is a basket case when you leave the room, and I dont just mean little crying he is screaming, I dont know whether it's due to what's been happening around him lately or not, but in the process of this screaming he is waking my little man up 40 minutes after he went to sleep, and yep he doesn't re-settle, so I now have 2 screaming little ones. :(
How do I say to her, it's just to much? it's getting harder and harder? I'm having enough trouble trying to get H in a routine, not to mention my mental health at the moment. The thing is, she has no-one else to help her out, especially now she is on her enter the guilt..I really don't know what to do about the situation to be honest...
I'm also having an issue with the fact that I dont really have a full day to get any jobs done..I have them until about 2 and then mum picks them up, which doesn't really give me much time to get anything done before I have to pick the kids up from school..
I feel like I'm being selfish right now because I want to put me first and Harrison, and I know the repercussions from my family, the indirect comments which then enters the guilt again..
Anyone with some advice..will be greatly appreciated!
Catch ya soon


melanie harris said...

Its a hard situation to be in but you really have to think of yourself and your family first Tam.

Does your mum work? Could she help your sister out?

I think you need to tell your sister. Maybe her child needs help dealing with his emotions and healing.

*Southern Beall* said...

Not sure I have an advice but your family needs YOU & they need you in good shape. Let her know you dont mind helping her every now & then but it really is just too much to take on with your own family. She is your sister & should understand that. I love you & sending vibes your way. *smoochies*

Renee said...

you need to put you first... or everyone is going to get screwed.

blunt, I know... but honest.

as for your sister... you love and care for her and want to do everything you can to help her, right. Do you wonder if she feels the same about you? Aaahh... I'm quite sure she does sweetheart.

If she's gone back to school, centrelink should also be able to help her out with childcare, etc. Let me know if you want more details, my sister is going through a program at the moment where she's getting shit cheap IN HOME care for her children while she's at TAFE.

*Southern Beall* said...

I so miss you!!!

Susan C said...

Yes, I think you need to talk to your sister and perhaps see what other help is available. What would happen if you couldn't do it for whatever reason?